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-Monday November 01 2010 
-Today is 11th day of my first chemo cycle. Still going good and other than some instances of vomiting,loss of interest in food, days are ok. Thankfully no major infections or after effects of chemo showed up. Don't know how the medicine is doing, but guess by next week the second round of chemo should start(if platelet count reach the desired level). Like that i have to do 8 cycles and usually it goes on for 4-6 months. This is the info from the medical side.
-
-On the personal front, i finished reading 2 novels and one book by vinay lal on the global political scenario. Now reading the famous Edward P. Said's "Oriantalism". My cousin was asking whether i need "Glimpses of world history" to read. I actually have no idea about that. Before start reading such a book, a lot of things to be considered including, how much time you can devote to think about it. 
-
-One of my cousin's got me a Tata photon+, i took a 1GB plan, i may have to rethink about the plans after the first month. It enhances my connectivity but also brings in the danger of keeping me out of other activities.
-
-In last some days, i had a large set of visitors. Apart from my father's brothers, my aunt and uncle also visited. They were here for a day. Then two friends from IIIT came with news,books and a lot. Two more are coming on Wednesday. My cousin visited twice. Two friends from kuttippuram came. In all everyone wants to see the sick and show their moral support, while am more interested in poaching for their blood and platelets :) 
-
-Thoughts on my Friends
-----------------------
-
-Some of my friends are keenly interested in helping me financially, so is my professor. My father might have some difficulty in getting the 10-15 lakhs required for intial stage but, that doesn't mean he is all in need of money right now. For me, someone who was making rs 6000 pm i spent all those money for last three years. Mostly on dresses, food, party, i fly everytime i go home, i maintained a nice ponytail with extravagant trips to best saloons in the city, many people at nice restaurants in city knew me by appearence i should say. For someone extravagant like that its amazing that i do have friends who wants to put in money for my pricely treatment and to help getting money from endowments. 
-
-I don't really know whether i should claim it or not. I was and am someone who doesnt care much for money and used give it when i have and fortunately i did have friends who can give me some when needed some. First of all, I don't know whether its quite right to make a financial relation out of more emotionally and personally knit social relations. I never cared for financials, but made sure i never cross my reserve. On top people say, there is always strings attached with money, which i would like to avoid as much as possible. On top being a rational human being, i would say, it doesnt make much sense for me to give financial aid to someone who can afford top medical facilities of the country along with vip facilities. 
-
-May be my friends are thinking i am not going to make money for a little while on the pretext of the disease(i lost a year and haven't stopped thinking about PhD). My father being a retired man, they might be thinking its their duty to help out a friend in need. After all some wise people said long before "a friend in need is a friend indeed". They might be confused on how to be friendly towards a guy with kind of serious illness but not in much emotional distress and full of energy and optimism and on top with a philosophical and rational edge over them. I am kind of a socially introvert guy, who likes to be in a closed space than in party. But, being in company of friends, i just like to be one of them and have a good time of what i got. Should say, i will try to make maximum out of what i have got. To experience things to best to make sure, i am not missing details. 
-
-Who are my friends
-------------------
-
-May be that attitude gave me access to a varied and interesting group of individuals. Many of them by very good friends and well wishers. I do have company of intellectuals who tries to debate,see the other perspectives,form perspectives, avoid prejudices and on top see logic in situations. I have friends among people who call these intellectuals as dreamers dismisses them as waste. I party with them during IPL, New Year, Diwali, or anyday for that matter. We watch premier league matches and formula one races together, discuss food and restuarants, music, life like any other. They do know that i have good say and company in intellectual gang(not in IIIT, there i still keep a low profile, being a new guy have some friends and just started discussing some initiatives in Exact Humanities dept. with some friends, may be by next year, i will get a chance there too :)). I do have access to so called geeky hacker community for being having a niche of my on in Indic language computing and being a avid fan and user of GNU/Linux. Though not much active for last some years, i do have presence in Indian Free Software community, courtesy of friends i made in due course. I still involve so much in the activities of a free software group i revived back in college in keeping it active. I would say i have a good friend in journalist community who whole heartedly provides me access,knowledge and space for my thoughts and perspectives.  
-
-
-All these gives me access to a varied set of friends and community of people who are all i say belong to either middle class or upper middle class. I don't have much friends in the strata above that(the one of socialites/celebrities) but should say some of my friends in partying circles were good enough to get me a glimpse or two of whats happening there(with help of their friends). I should not say i don't have friends in lower strata of community. I did my primary education in a aided malayalam medium school and there i have a lot friends who are either self employed or managed to lift themselves up from the poverty they had through hard work(only handful of my primary friends managed to get through SSLC, though most of my classmates were muslims, i dont remember any of them getting through). Most of female primary classmates were married by the time i finished my 12th. Very few of them even thought about studying till 10th. Even on the male side, very few were interested in studies. So, for a class topping studious guy was more than a friend to them, more like most of them to tell their children that we were in the same school :) Still i meet them occassionaly(we don't cross paths much as i visit my village only once in a while and most it will be associated with some function or other). Then i moved to JNV. There we rarely discussed financials, but i do remember many of my friends had parents with govt. job. Some of them self employed. Some of them a little or sophisticated jobs like teachers. Some were hard labours tilled on their land. But all of us were good in something or other. We were good in studies, were disciplined well by the residential establisment, leading us to the prime goal of being a professional(doctor/engineer). If you can't make that something else the education can provide. I should say, most of us did well. Many are engineers and doctors. There are some nurses. Some are in service sector. Some disappointed, may be didn't get the system of real world outside the system of JNV. Handful of us are in academia too. 
-
-Then the 4 years in a self financing engineering college in malappuram where most of the students are wards of NRIs gave me access to totally different groups of people including real street gangs :) It gave me a glimpse of what campus politics have boiled down to. Why it is not going beyond hefty gang wars between the muscles of some fighting minds who don't really need the political affiliation to put up a fight(which was evident from the past and most recent fights in the campus). On top it gave me a home in almost all district in home where i can except a meal in time of trouble :) In Ernakulam i have more than five spots where i can spent a night. In trivandrum not much but still a guy is settled down there for now. Calicut, i wont say how many will be happy to accomodate me, so in Kollam, Aleppy, kannur, talassery or even in wayanad. I think i had the aura of geek there. Eccentric and intellectual at the same time. Not so much of the variety is there in Kerala campuses(though they are supposedly people whom we find in serious tech. depts of western universities). I don't know where it placed me in the social strata of the college, but not in the best loveable guy list(or even manly guy i should suppose) i suppose. I was one who used to share the lunch of day scholars(both boys and girls alike) or make them give me money for lunch to avoid a long walk to hostel, Kept no shame in begging since my idea of financially sound or manly doesn't mean i can't beg for 10 rs. On top, not someone who plays any games, though can give a hard lecture on soccer and the scores, not much of a player of the game, not feisty, not much kind of one who keeps grit over things all made me a different kind of guy and still a popular one i should say :) Like wise my 3 year stay in IIIT, gave me access to a different breed of people and virtually a bed in every city in the country.
-
-Thoughts on what helped and how it helps in having so many friends
-------------------------------------------------------------------
-
-I should say, having been fortunate enough to meet so many people and make friends with such a large cross section of society gives you access to a lot of information too. May be my interest in sherlock Holmes from childhood and later in logics and computers might have shot up my interest in both logic and observation. I should say it helps in my current field of study a lot too. Don't know how many other than people work among crowd have the kind of access and familiarity i had with different groups of people. Usually one like to remain in their comfort zones. Being to a hostel when i was 10, my comfort zone is being alone. I am not a crowds man, not a public speaker or dancer or anything. May be good in parties and enjoying a good time with friends with those little anecdotes and comments. Pretty good foodie and a nice food gives me a good time. Other than that, i belong to the arm chair, virtual world generation. Life for me with out internet access is a disaster. I do have a GPRS connection and a netbook and kind of had uninterrupted internet for last 3 years. I like to be in my room invisible to everyone but then, i know its not what life is what about. 
-
-I do go out, make friends with others and enjoy life to the full. It gives me chance to understand and put to use the observations i made from texts and books. So, i should say i am comfortable everywhere. I enjoy all that i take part, make my contributions in any capacity, get embarassed, sometimes unlikely of my nature i do even volunteer for some tasks :) May be the idea that i will have a comfort zone might have left my mind when i went to boarding school. Adaptation to unexpected situations and different kind of people i might have started to anticipate. On top, my philosophy of change the numbers of life according to numbers i get might have helped me. I expect ambuiguity, abnormality and interestingly on top pattern in life. I do think and try to understand about society and life at large. My little access to different circles of people gives me food for thought too. It also gives me experience in the so called etiquettes in different groups of people. I get a chance to observe by being part of society and be aware of what society is capable of. 
-
-Being a someone who like to take decisions of my life on in my own fashion, i sometime end up in loggerheads with my immediate circle of family and friends. The logics i follow or pursue mostly just don't convince them. But my experience in interacting with a large section of people thinking in different ways and looks life at different angles is what usually helps in cooling the system. Rational and logical arguments seldom work. So is stubborness and arguments. Sometimes a smile or a little anecdote will convince the other better. Sometimes its better to avoid confrontation at all. You will sometimes be best of being part of the group, even though you are nothing of the sort(i was quite accepted by the all the so called political outfits of the campus). 
-
-This gives quite an account of my friends, may be why i have so many friends and what i do get from them than the financial aid or real idea of friendship. Its a learning experience to be in company of so many people and for people who love knowledge and understand than anything else with a keen and trained(from JNV) thoughts and eyes on society it is something precious i should say.   
-
-
-Family
-------
+\subsection*{Monday November 01 2010}
+
+Today is 11th day of my first chemo cycle. Still going good and other
+than some instances of vomiting, loss of interest in food, days are ok.
+Thankfully no major infections or after effects of chemo showed up. 
+Don't know how the medicine is doing, but guess by next week the second 
+round of chemo should start (if platelet count reach the desired level). 
+Like that I have to do 8 cycles and usually it goes on for 4-6 months. 
+This is the info from the medical side.
+
+On the personal front, I finished reading 2 novels and one book by Vinay 
+Lal on the global political scenario. Now reading the famous Edward P. Said's 
+"Orientalism". My cousin was asking whether I need "Glimpses of world history" 
+to read. I actually have no idea about that. Before start reading such a book, 
+a lot of things to be considered including, how much time you can devote to 
+think about it. 
+
+One of my cousins got me a Tata photon+, I took a 1GB plan, I may have to rethink 
+about the plans after the first month. It enhances my connectivity but also brings 
+in the danger of keeping me out of other activities.
+
+In last some days, I had a large set of visitors. Apart from my father's brothers,
+my aunt and uncle also visited. They were here for a day. Then two friends from IIIT 
+came with news, books and a lot. Two more are coming on Wednesday. My cousin visited 
+twice. Two friends from kuttippuram came. In all everyone wants to see the sick and 
+show their moral support, while am more interested in poaching for their blood and 
+platelets :) 
+
+\subsection*{Thoughts on my Friends}
+
+Some of my friends are keenly interested in helping me financially, so is my professor. 
+My father might have some difficulty in getting the 10-15 lakhs required for intial stage 
+but, that doesn't mean he is all in need of money right now. For me, someone who was making 
+rs 6000 pm I spent all those money for last three years. Mostly on dresses, food, party, 
+I fly everytime I go home, I maintained a nice ponytail with extravagant trips to best 
+saloons in the city, many people at nice restaurants in city knew me by appearence I should say. 
+For someone extravagant like that its amazing that I do have friends who wants to put in money 
+for my pricely treatment and to help getting money from endowments. 
+
+I don't really know whether I should claim it or not. I was and am someone who doesnt care much 
+for money and used to giving it when I have and fortunately I did have friends who can give me 
+some when needed some. First of all, I don't know whether its quite right to make a financial 
+relation out of more emotionally and personally knit social relations. I never cared for financials, 
+but made sure I never cross my reserve. On top people say, there is always strings attached with 
+money, which I would like to avoid as much as possible. On top being a rational human being, I would 
+say, it doesnt make much sense for me to give financial aid to someone who can afford top medical facilities of the country along with vip facilities. 
+
+May be my friends are thinking I am not going to make money for a little while on the pretext of 
+the disease (I lost a year and haven't stopped thinking about PhD). My father being a retired man, 
+they might be thinking its their duty to help out a friend in need. After all some wise people said 
+long before "a friend in need is a friend indeed". They might be confused on how to be friendly 
+towards a guy with kind of serious illness but not in much emotional distress and full of energy 
+and optimism and on top with a philosophical and rational edge over them. I am kind of a socially
+introvert guy, who likes to be in a closed space than in party. But, being in company of friends, 
+I just like to be one of them and have a good time of what I got. Should say, I will try to make 
+maximum out of what I have got. To experience things to best to make sure, I am not missing details. 
+
+\subsection*{Who are my friends?}
+
+May be that attitude gave me access to a varied and interesting group of individuals. Many of them 
+my very good friends and well wishers. I do have company of intellectuals who tries to debate, see 
+the other perspectives, form perspectives, avoid prejudices and on top see logic in situations. I 
+have friends among people who call these intellectuals as dreamers dismisses them as waste. I party 
+with them during IPL, New Year, Diwali, or anyday for that matter. We watch premier league matches 
+and formula one races together, discuss food and restuarants, music, life like any other. They do 
+know that I have good say and company in intellectual gang (not in IIIT, there I still keep a low
+profile, being a new guy have some friends and just started discussing some initiatives in Exact
+Humanities dept. with some friends, may be by next year, I will get a chance there too :)). I do 
+have access to so called geeky hacker community for being having a niche of my work on in Indic 
+language computing and being a avid fan and user of GNU/Linux. Though not much active for last 
+some years, I do have presence in Indian Free Software community, courtesy of friends I made in 
+due course. I still involve so much in the activities of a free software group I revived back in 
+college in keeping it active. I would say I have a good friend in journalist community who whole
+heartedly provides me access, knowledge and space for my thoughts and perspectives.  
+
+
+All these gives me access to a varied set of friends and community of people who are all I say 
+belong to either middle class or upper middle class. I don't have much friends in the strata above 
+that (the one of socialites/celebrities) but should say some of my friends in partying circles 
+were good enough to get me a glimpse or two of whats happening there (with help of their friends). 
+I should not say I don't have friends in lower strata of community. I did my primary education 
+in an aided malayalam medium school and there I have a lot friends who are either self employed 
+or managed to lift themselves up from the poverty they had through hard work (only handful of my 
+primary friends managed to get through SSLC, though most of my classmates were muslims, I dont 
+remember any of them getting through). Most of female primary classmates were married by the time 
+I finished my 12th. Very few of them even thought about studying till 10th. Even on the male side, 
+very few were interested in studies. So, for a class topping studious guy was more than a friend 
+to them, more like most of them to tell their children that we were in the same school :) Still 
+I meet them occassionaly (we don't cross paths much as I visit my village only once in a while 
+and most of it will be associated with some function or other). Then I moved to JNV\footnote{Jawahar Navodaya Vidyalaya}. There we rarely discussed financials, but I do remember many of my friends had
+parents with govt. job. Some of them self employed. Some of them a little more sophisticated jobs 
+like teachers. Some were hard labours tilled on their land. But all of us were good in something 
+or other. We were good in
+studies, were disciplined well by the residential establisment, leading us to the prime goal of 
+being a professional (doctor/engineer). If you can't make that something else the education can 
+provide. I should say, most of us did well. Many are engineers and doctors. There are some nurses. 
+Some are in service sector. Some disappointed, may be didn't get the system of real world outside 
+the system of JNV. Handful of us are in academia too. 
+
+Then the 4 years in a self financing engineering college in malappuram where most of the students 
+are wards of NRIs gave me access to totally different groups of people including real street gangs :) 
+It gave me a glimpse of what campus politics have boiled down to. Why it is not going beyond hefty 
+gang wars between the muscles of some fighting minds who don't really need the political affiliation 
+to put up a fight (which was evident from the past and most recent fights in the campus). On top 
+it gave me a home in almost all districts in Kerala where I can except a meal in time of trouble :) 
+In Ernakulam I have more than five spots where I can spent a night. In trivandrum not much but still 
+a guy is settled down there for now. Calicut, I wont say how many will be happy to accomodate me, 
+so in Kollam, Aleppy, Kannur, Thalassery or even in Wayanad. I think I had the aura of geek there.
+Eccentric and intellectual at the same time. Not so much of the variety is there in Kerala campuses
+(though they are supposedly people whom we find in serious tech. depts of western universities). I
+don't know where it placed me in the social strata of the college, but not in the best loveable guy 
+list (or even manly guy I should suppose) I suppose. I was the one who used to share the lunch of day
+scholars (both boys and girls alike) or make them give me money for lunch to avoid a long walk to
+hostel, kept no shame in begging since my idea of financially sound or manly doesn't mean I can't 
+beg for 10 rs. On top, not someone who plays any games, though can give a hard lecture on soccer 
+and the scores, not much of a player of the game, not feisty, not much kind of one who keeps grit 
+over things all made me a different kind of guy and still a popular one I should say :) Like wise 
+my 3 year stay in IIIT, gave me access to a different breed of people and virtually a bed in every 
+city in the country.
+
+\subsection*{Thoughts on what helped and how it helps in having so many friends}
+
+I should say, having been fortunate enough to meet so many people and make friends with such a 
+large cross section of society gives you access to a lot of information too. May be my interest
+in Sherlock Holmes from childhood and later in logics and computers might have shot up my interest 
+in both logic and observation. I should say it helps in my current field of study a lot too. Don't 
+know how many other than people work among crowd have the kind of access and familiarity i had with
+different groups of people. Usually one like to remain in their comfort zones. Being to a hostel 
+when I was 10, my comfort zone is being alone. I am not a crowds man, not a public speaker or dancer 
+or anything. May be good in parties and enjoying a good time with friends with those little anecdotes
+and comments. Pretty good foodie and a nice food gives me a good time. Other than that, I belong to 
+the arm chair, virtual world generation. Life for me with out internet access is a disaster. I do have
+a GPRS connection and a netbook and kind of had uninterrupted internet for last 3 years. I like to 
+be in my room invisible to everyone but then, I know its not what life is what about. 
+
+I do go out, make friends with others and enjoy life to the full. It gives me chance to understand 
+and put to use the observations I made from texts and books. So, I should say I am comfortable
+everywhere. I enjoy all that I take part in, make my contributions in any capacity, get embarassed,
+sometimes unlikely of my nature I do even volunteer for some tasks :) May be the idea that I will 
+have a comfort zone might have left my mind when I went to boarding school. Adaptation to 
+unexpected situations and different kind of people I might have started to anticipate. On top, 
+my philosophy of change the numbers of life according to numbers I get might have helped me. I 
+expect ambuiguity, abnormality and interestingly on top pattern in life. I do think and try to
+understand about society and life at large. My little access to different circles of people gives 
+me food for thought too. It also gives me experience in the so called etiquettes in different 
+groups of people. I get a chance to observe by being part of society and be aware of what society 
+is capable of. 
+
+Being a someone who like to take decisions of my life on in my own fashion, I sometime end up in
+loggerheads with my immediate circle of family and friends. The logics I follow or pursue mostly 
+just don't convince them. But my experience in interacting with a large section of people thinking 
+in different ways and looks life at different angles is what usually helps in cooling the system.
+Rational and logical arguments seldom work. So is stubborness and arguments. Sometimes a smile or 
+a little anecdote will convince the other better. Sometimes its better to avoid confrontation at 
+all. You will sometimes be best of being part of the group, even though you are nothing of the 
+sort (i was quite accepted by the all the so called political outfits of the campus). 
+
+This gives quite an account of my friends, may be why I have so many friends and what I do get from 
+them than the financial aid or real idea of friendship. Its a learning experience to be in company 
+of so many people and for people who love knowledge and understand than anything else with a keen 
+and trained (from JNV) thoughts and eyes on society it is something precious I should say.   
+
+
+\subsection*{Family}
    
-Though i am not a filthy rich guy, i am quite sure affording treatment at current cost is not so much of a hefty burden on my father than many other things. It will more be a mental and physical burden for him than financial. He has brothers who are able to and helping in running his farm, his real estate investment etc. Also as an investment he preferred liquidity over higher returns and that also might help him a little here. Amazingly, i do have friends, teachers and family to help me on anyway they can. I do know it makes me one of the few fortunate people with the same medical situation and it i should say humbles me. 
-
-But it also gives me an idea of society i live in. The monetory help is always seen as a best and important way of showing the support and easing the burden in case of expensive treatments. Strong family ties are a crucial matter when it comes situations like this. Me and my father can manage in Vellore easily without tension and even think about doing some work back in iiit, only because i have two of my father's brothers looking after his properties and my mother in our village and another brother looks after our properties in town. A fourth brother who is a doctor, spend a week of his life troubleshooting my issue and still calls almost everyday to get the details of treatment and my status in case he need to get involved. I do have doctor cousins who spent the best ties and knowledge they have to find out where i can get the best treatment in India. 
-
-All this came from a strong loyality to the idea of the family. --for which even i should say i am trying to contribute a little by efforts of building a family tree. It is project halfway, i would like to complete it. When am in hospital, i can at least get it going by a small detail. A lot of information is gathered by my father's elder brother but was not archived well in a software scheme.-- I will try to do that and give it a shape as soon as i get hold of that data. The loyality to family came from various points, first of all, all the stakeholders involved were hardworking and financially stable and the matriarch(my father's mother) who ran the family for long time actually made sure the details of money and kept out equation where ever possible. 
-
-There is enough and more family troubles and issues in each of the atomic families, but usually any big issues are put forward to something like a family meeting and i should say everyone is made to participate in that. Plus, they gather for onam,vishu, different poojas and other festivities every year. On top of their participation, they make sure people who can participate from next generation is sure available and is on the scene. The sense of being part of family and all these people are our own(they are not cousins but brothers and sisters) is something they like us to understand. That gives my sister the nerve to tell her nine year old son that he got 100s of cousins back in India. Seeing the american society, i don't think he might have been convinced and that put me into making the family tree. But his visits to India and participitation one or two family gatherings everytime i guess might have given him the idea. He might have seen and played with a huge lot of those 100s of cousins in two month vacation he gets once in two years. 
-
-All of my fathers siblings have achieved their own level of self sufficiency. Interestingly none of them think alike, there will be huge debates on any issue with people having different views and all thoroughly debated out. Head of the family takes the decision in the end. May be this level of involvement due the diversity of opinions might be creating a chance of discussing out all possibilities of a problem. The kind of rationality obtained when things are debated well to understand different perspectives. This is not to say they are modernists or reformings, most of them are believers with different political mentalities and have kind of orthodox views in social relations. But, i should say, they understand change, they resist when i grow my hair or decide to make a choice to go into research and academics than the money spinning IT Galore, but they accept it. They know we have the power and will to defy them and proceed on our own if they are not cautious, which might not do much good for the family fabric they are protecting for last 50+ years.
-
-But the thing is, it created a loosely knit but loyal institution out of set of fragmented, diversely thinking, atomic family entities. The idea of belonging is there for even people who don't really belong to the family as a matter(ones who are married off). Many of them prefer to spent their festivities with us since we make the best out of it :) 
-
-The idea of having an independent life out of society and family ties is encouraging and goes well with liberal mind set i have. I have managed to keep my own identity and made sure am the ones taking decisions for me in life. Still somehow i managed to keep the life alive with so many friends and putting them to good use. Even though i don't accept or sometimes just make and do things which many in family don't like(small things like growing hair or big decisions like my stream of study), i managed being a part of the family. I do make sure i visit my family in every city i have been to. 
-
-It is kind of an experiment, as i said before, system like to use it for your benefit. So the best thing to do is understand the system, keep it out of you but be inside it. Here i explained two large systems of society(friends and family). I managed to be part of the system, at same time kind of out its reach. I tried to learn the system, use to increase my leverage when i need to have an interaction or when i come to logger heads. I am not interested in or believe in direct confrontations. Very rarely i do end up in one. I like to manouver through the system without alerting it. I think i did it right so far :) If i publish this as it is, it might make a difficult and awkward situation, but then life is not always what you want :)
+Though I am not a filthy rich guy, I am quite sure affording treatment at current cost is not so 
+much of a hefty burden on my father than many other things. It will more be a mental and physical 
+burden for him than financial. He has brothers who are able to and helping in running his farm, 
+his real estate investment etc. Also as an investment he preferred liquidity over higher returns 
+and that also might help him a little here. Amazingly, I do have friends, teachers and family to 
+help me on anyway they can. I do know it makes me one of the few fortunate people with the same 
+medical situation and it, I should say humbles me. 
+
+But it also gives me an idea of society I live in. The monetory help is always seen as a best 
+and important way of showing the support and easing the burden in case of expensive treatments. 
+Strong family ties are a crucial matter when it comes situations like this. Me and my father can 
+manage in Vellore easily without tension and even think about doing some work back in IIIT, only 
+because I have two of my father's brothers looking after his properties and my mother in our 
+village and another brother looks after our properties in town. A fourth brother who is a doctor, 
+spend a week of his life troubleshooting my issue and still calls almost everyday to get the 
+details of treatment and my status in case he need to get involved. I do have doctor cousins 
+who spent the best ties and knowledge they have to find out where I can get the best treatment in India. 
+
+All this came from a strong loyality to the idea of the family -- for which even I should say I am
+trying to contribute a little by efforts of building a family tree. It is project halfway, I would 
+like to complete it. When am in hospital, I can at least get it going by a small detail. A lot of
+information is gathered by my father's elder brother but was not archived well in a software scheme 
+-- I will try to do that and give it a shape as soon as I get hold of that data. The loyality to 
+family came from various points, first of all, all the stakeholders involved were hardworking and
+financially stable and the matriarch (my father's mother) who ran the family for long time actually 
+made sure the details of money and kept out equation where ever possible. 
+
+There is enough and more family troubles and issues in each of the atomic families, but usually any 
+big issues are put forward to something like a family meeting and I should say everyone is made 
+to participate in that. Plus, they gather for onam, vishu, different poojas and other festivities 
+every year. On top of their participation, they make sure people who can participate from next
+generation is sure available and is on the scene. The sense of being part of family and all these 
+people are our own (they are not cousins but brothers and sisters) is something they like us to
+understand. That gives my sister the nerve to tell her nine year old son that he got 100s of 
+cousins back in India. Seeing the american society, I don't think he might have been convinced 
+and that put me into making the family tree. But his visits to India and participitation one or 
+two family gatherings everytime I guess might have given him the idea. He might have seen and 
+played with a huge lot of those 100s of cousins in two month vacation he gets once in two years. 
+
+All of my fathers siblings have achieved their own level of self sufficiency. Interestingly none of 
+them think alike, there will be huge debates on any issue with people having different views and all
+thoroughly debated out. Head of the family takes the decision in the end. May be this level of
+involvement due the diversity of opinions might be creating a chance of discussing out all 
+possibilities of a problem. The kind of rationality obtained when things are debated well to 
+understand different perspectives. This is not to say they are modernists or reformings, most 
+of them are believers with different political mentalities and have kind of orthodox views in 
+social relations. But, i should say, they understand change, they resist when I grow my hair or 
+decide to make a choice to go into research and academics than the money spinning IT Galore, 
+but they accept it. They know we have the power and will to defy them and proceed on our own 
+if they are not cautious, which might not do much good for the family fabric they are protecting 
+for last 50+ years.
+
+But the thing is, it created a loosely knit but loyal institution out of set of fragmented, diversely
+thinking, atomic family entities. The idea of belonging is there for even people who don't really 
+belong to the family as a matter (ones who are married off). Many of them prefer to spent their
+festivities with us since we make the best out of it :) 
+
+The idea of having an independent life out of society and family ties is encouraging and goes 
+well with liberal mind set i have. I have managed to keep my own identity and made sure am the 
+one taking decisions for me in life. Still somehow I managed to keep the life alive with so many 
+friends and putting them to good use. Even though I don't accept or sometimes just make and do 
+things which many in family don't like (small things like growing hair or big decisions like my 
+stream of study), I managed being a part of the family. I do make sure I visit my family in every 
+city I have been to. 
+
+It is kind of an experiment, as I said before, system like to use it for your benefit. So the best 
+thing to do is understand the system, keep it out of you but be inside it. Here I explained two 
+large systems of society (friends and family). I managed to be part of the system, at same time 
+kind of out its reach. I tried to learn the system, use to increase my leverage when I need to have 
+an interaction or when I come to logger heads. I am not interested in or believe in direct
+confrontations. Very rarely I do end up in one. I like to manouver through the system without 
+alerting it. I think I did it right so far :) If I publish this as it is, it might make a difficult 
+and awkward situation, but then life is not always what you want :)
 
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